We hear the phrase “Heartfelt Words” or similar expressions from time-to-time. Most of the time, we say it in context of expressing sympathy or to show genuine care. However, angry words or words and phrases that are rooted in bitterness, jealousy, envy, or other negative sentiments are equally heartfelt. We just don’t like to accept that those expressions get their definitions in our hearts.
But make no mistake about it: negative words are indeed heartfelt words.
I say this as I consider Edwards’s 26th resolution (see below). It’s peculiar to me though. I say this because when I review his diary entries for the date that accompanies it, his notes don’t truly point to this pondering. Rather, his notes have him considering degrees of glory and why he may or may not have acceptable passion for the Lord.
Jonathan Edwards Resolution 36
Edwards’ Resolution #36 (as it was written)
Resolved, never to speak evil of any, except I have some particular good call for it. Dec. 19, 1722
Edwards’ Resolution #36 (in my modernized language):
Never speak negatively of anyone without good reason.
“You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It’s your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”
Matthew 121:36-37 MSG
Your Words are Heartfelt Words
So, why is Edwards resolving to not speak evil about others when he is questioning the doctrine of differing degrees of glory? Why is he considering his words about others when questioning his interest in God’s love or favor?
It’s because every ponder about degrees of glory and every ponder about God’s love or favor will eventually lead you to an understanding of your own heart. And the words you say about others – especially when they are emotionally charged – will speak volumes about your heart.
Remember that when you are about to “lose it” over something so inconsequential.
Edwards resolves to not speak evil about anyone unless he has good reason for doing so. If you are a gossip, carry a reputation for bulldozing over others, or for tearing down others, remember that the words you speak are rooted in your heart. The words you speak are truly heartfelt words, just the same as if you were to console someone for the loss of a loved one.
Is There Good Reason for Speaking Out?
I find it interesting that, just as many of Edwards’ resolutions do, he gives himself an out. Do you see it? In this case, it’s where he says “except I have some particular good call for it.” It makes me wonder, what is a “good call?”
As I have pondered and prayed while considering this resolution, I harken back to the heart. Why? Because, the only way you will know if there is good reason for what you will speak, is if you take the time to consider and weigh the genuine need for doing so.
You will examine the words you are considering, taking time to consider your own heart’s motive for speaking them. Is it to boost your own ego? Or, perhaps they are aimed at furthering your own agenda. Even worse, maybe they are rooted in jealousy and, thus, a desire to save face while another person gains praise.
Contain those words, for they seek to divide and destroy. They are destructive words. And, yes, they may indeed be heartfelt words. Give them over to God, seeking the transforming power of Christ. For, as a believer and disciple of our Lord, we must seek to have heartfelt words aimed at building up and saving.
“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ,”
Ephesians 4:15 ESV