Refining Life, on Purpose

Impostor Syndrome and Giving Up Control of the Narrative

Impostor Syndrome keeps us from being who God created us to be. And the Devil loves it. But we don't always have to control the narrative. Take out the earbuds, and thrive.

I learned about something called Impostor Syndrome a few years ago. It gave me an understanding of something I intuitively knew, but couldn’t label. In short, it’s a concept describing high-achieving individuals who have a fear of being exposed as fraud. They are worried they will be “found out” as posers or hacks. That they don’t deserve their success. These individuals are generally successful, but have trouble internalizing their accomplishments. My Struggle with Impostor Syndrome I grew up in a home where we depended on food stamps – actual food stamps that could not be hidden at the checkout. I […]

Consider Your Ways for the New Year and Beyond

It’s good to take a break from time to time to consider your ways as you also consider your possible future. It’s never too late. We’re works in progress until the day God calls us home.

It’s good to take a break from time to time to consider your ways as you also consider your possible future. You see, the New Year is filled with a lot of advice from leaders, bloggers, journalists and all sorts of people. They’ll give you a lot of words about resolutions, goals, living intentionally and more. However, this is not one of those pieces. Frankly, it’s not a post about how to have the greatest year possible in x easy steps. It’s about you and how you go forward. So, whether you have a destination in mind or you tend […]

Seeking Your Life Vision – A Review of A Minute of Vision for Men

A Minute of Vision For Men is written with a low spiritual intimidation factor to help any man grow spiritually from any point in their walk. so you can start your day on the right foot, focused on what matters the most.

What’s your life vision? Do you have a one? In Scripture, it says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish” and that’s the driving motivation behind Roger Patterson’s A Minute of Vision for Men: 365 Motivational Moments to Kick-Start Your Day. So many of us are living on autopilot. As a result, we’re not actively engaging the battle of living up to our God-given potential. That life vision is lacking. And, too often, we settle for less than what is best for us, our families, and our careers. Sadly, that also means we make God settle for less than […]

Stop Making Excuses So You Can Wake Up and Finally Say Yes

Stop Making Excuses So You Can Wake Up and Finally Say Yes

What if you were to quit making excuses and said yes to God?  It’s a simple question. And, it’s a question you might think doesn’t apply to you. But let’s ask another question… how often has your desire for what could be been held in check because you won’t give up the behaviors keeping you from it? As we conclude our first Year of Listening Up, this month focusing on the idea saying yes to God, we’re going to ponder these questions. The answers will help put your 2017 into an appropriate context for living a more impactful life. One […]

What If I Say No to God by Ignoring My Call?

When we say no to God and our calling, we're depriving God, ourselves and the world in many ways. Let us consider saying yes to God.

It seems silly to suggest we might say no to God if we really are accepting of his all-encompassing power. Yet, we say no to God all the time. We say no to him when we fall short in obeying all his commands. We say no when we make choices that are – without question – born of self-interest (and perhaps often to the detriment of others). And maybe more striking than anything else, we say no to God when we put off his call on our lives. There are implications to saying no, of course, and some of those […]

You Might Fear Success – Here’s Why & What You Can Do About It

Success is not something we should fear

The fear of success keeps many people from dreaming big. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true and I know because I have lived through it. And if I am honest with myself and others, I struggle with it today. I’m really serious about this and I suspect most readers will relate to this if they are at all honest with themselves. You see, I realized that I sometimes assess a decision on two different concepts of risk. First, there is the risk of doing it and what failure could represent. That’s the most common concept and with which […]

Why We Should (and How We Can) Be More Like Inigo Montoya

The many lessons we can learn from Inigo Montoya

Your life has meaning. It’s purposeful and you were created for a reason. But discovering that reason is only part of what it means to pursue a refining life, on purpose. Today, I want to share a little bit from one of my all-time favorite movies, the Princess Bride. One of the most famous among the many famous lines that exist in story is the oft-recited refrain of: It’s a line that has transcended generations and become a go-to phrase for many. In fact, very few people can resist picking up a sword, whether real or make-believe, and not say those […]

God’s Ordering of Our Lives to Prepare Us – 7 Posts

God's Ordering of Our Lives to Prepare Us

Wow. God’s ordering of our lives can be many things. Frightening, exciting, eventful, dull, bland, fun, and a host of other descriptors – but one stands out: everlasting. You see, this month’s topic in the A Year of Listening Up series at 1Glories has been quite interesting, challenging and insightful. I had really expected it to be either sort of boring or extremely difficult. Perhaps both. I mean, how much can really be said about live your life with a mindset of being constantly prepared? But, as I have pondered, studied, prayed and read this 7 Posts on how God’s Ordering […]

Celebrate Baseball’s Opening Day With These 7 Refining Reads

Baseball, Opening Day & Refining Life, on Purpose

Today is Opening Day in a few Major League Baseball (MLB) cities and, within a few days, all teams will be in full swing (pun intended) on another great season of America’s National Pastime. Just in case you didn’t already know this about me, I am a life-long baseball fan and historian of sorts. Because of that, I find a lot of common things between the game, life and my walk with Christ. So, to celebrate Opening Day, I wanted to share seven baseball-related posts that also relate to refining life, on purpose. So, without further ado, let’s play ball! No More Self-Defeat – […]

When God’s Plans Are Not The Same As Your Plans

When God's Plans Are Not Like Our Plans

Today, we are rounding out our discussion of Aligning With God’s Will in our Year of Listening Up by pondering God’s plans. Yesterday, I introduced you to Daniel Fusco’s book, “Honestly” which releases April 1 (go order it now, seriously, you will thank me). In addition to losing his mother to cancer at a fairly young age and of ways where life didn’t go as he planned or as he lived in opposition to God’s nudging, Fusco talks about how he had intended to be a professional bass player. He dreamt of being on the covers of magazines, releasing albums, selling […]